So our wedding date came and went. Unfortunately, two weeks before the wedding date, we had to sadly push back the wedding because we had to make an emergency $2000 payment to our lawyer. So wedding funds went out the window.The only thing we lost was that we had already paid for our cake, so we had to pick it up. It was only a half sheet cake from Kroger, so we just ate it LOL We still want to be married before the baby comes in April, so we've moved our wedding date to December 11, 2010. Nowhere near our anniversary, but i'll take it. Stuff happens, right? My pastor from my home church agreed to marry us instead of going to the courthouse like we planned. Now let's hope he will be nice enough to travel to Houston to do it!So, as it sits, we have to book the photographer (we decided against one before) if we're going to have one, my dress is ALL ready to go, assuming I don't start to show baby bump between now and December, we've decided to order food trays from Chick-Fil-A, which include cool chicken wraps tray, chicken salad sandwhich tray, chicken nugget tray, chicken strip tray, fruit tray, cheesecake tray, and furnish drinks/juice and the wedding cake. The biggest thing is, we want to have the wedding and reception down here in Houston, and we can't find anywhere to do it, since Fountain Court Weddings in Pasadena closed down a week ago. I was thinking of having it in one of the parks in League City, if it's not too cold out, but that still leaves a reception site to be desired. Hmm. My dress fits wonderfully and the shoes that I had dyed Blush Pink from David's Bridal came out awesome. I'll have to post pics soon.
So, we're thinking of a wedding date (again)...thing is, we have a bit of trouble. We want to go ahead and get it overwith, and just have an informal ceremony for a commonlaw wedding on Aug 14 this year (because we're dead set on having our anniversary be the same day as our dating anniversary, but the NEXT time it falls on a Saturday is in 2021...and that's just too long to wait). We would be going and having our ceremony at the county clerk's office locally, and then having a reception/dinner elsewhere. How would we go about this? How do we tell guests (probably 25-30, only immediate friends/family) that we would not be paying for anything mealwise except the wedding cake?Any help on planning a (sort of) last minute informal ceremony and still have a beautiful, tasteful day? I did have plans for a larger wedding, but we have quite a bit on our plate at the moment, and would rather not add to it, so we're scaling down majorly. Just for info, the wedding will be in the Clear Lake/SE Houston area.
1. Dropped off my wedding set to be sized. I decided to keep the one I already had, rather than order another. I guess you could say in the few years i've worn the engagement ring, the set has grown on me. Found a much cheaper place to size them than the place in the mall that quoted me $194 for both rings...I found a place closer to home that will size them both to the size I need for $85. Sweet!2. Dropped off my dress for alterations today, I found a place called Morrell's right up the street owned by a little Hispanic lady named Saly who is taking in the halter and sides, redoing the bust, and creating my bustle all for $100 bucks. Plus tax, which equals $108.25.I couldn't believe what great deals I got at such a spur of the moment. My best friend was jealous that I found someone who did such good work at such a cheap price to do my dress LOLSo far, our wedding budget looks like ( this:Collapse )
I realize it's kinda weird now that our wedding plans have been cut so short that's we're having a courthouse wedding, but I felt the need to post a progress post anyway.The dress: I have decided not to wear either of my wedding dresses, I've decided to eith sell or donate them. I'd prefer to sell, and i'm going to sell for much less than I got them for (plus shipping, if need be). I just found something nice to wear here at home. My mom took me shopping a while back, and I had forgotyten I had a Burnout Cardigan in Arctic White by White Stag that ties in front and has a split down the middle, and i'm going to wear that with my favorite knee-length black skirt by George with a flounced hem. ( It will look like this:Collapse )Mark has decided to wear all black, with a nice black dress shirt and black slacks, with his black dress shoes.We have shortened the wedding party drastically (down to four close friends), I am having one MOH and one BM, both best friends, and Mark has his best man (his best friend), and one GM. We've decided to invite close family and friends to an after-wedding dinner in my hometown at a nice Tex-Mex restaraunt, and order a wedding cake from the grocery store in my hometown. Our budget for the wedding cake is $150.00, and i'm going with my mom next weekend to order the cake.For a photographer, we're just going to rely on family, and the wedding party to get the pics we want, and I do have a list of the pics we want, such as a pic of us cutting the cake, rings, etc...We're not having many decorations, but we are going to order a few things from oriental trading.com, such as a feaux Rose And Lily Of The Valley Bridal Bouquet, Two Hearts Wedding Guest Book And Pen Set, their Personalized Rose Serving Set, Wedding Window Chalk (to decorate the getaway car!!), and Bride And Groom Baseball Cap Set, which I think is adorable, and it all comes to almost $90.00 (with $18.99 3-4 day shipping fee), so i'm pretty happy with that.The only thing I regret is that my family will be too far to make it to the acytual ceremony I think, but I do believe they're going to try and make it. It really makes me sad that my granny can't come and she'll have no clue that we're getting married. I know it hurts mom too. I'm planning to go see her before the dinner but after the ceremony to take pictures with her. As for the insurance matters,I REALLY CANNOT go a day with out health insurance, I have to see the Dr/Specialist AND my Psychiatrist every month, plus pick up 7 prescriptions a month, and right now, I have mom's insurance which covers 80%, and medicaid, which covers the other 20%, and for Dr, Specialist & my Psychiatrist visits, medicaid covers all of. and right now i'm on my mom's health insurance from TISD, and most likely, I will be dropped once i'm married, turn 25 (in which case she said she'd get separate health insurance on me anyway just to be sure i'm covered becaudse shje knows we can't afford it) , or stop being a fulltime student, but mom says she'll have to check with her business office to be sure how that goes. In this case, i'm getting married. I think I have a 30-day grace period after she reports my status chance to her Ins company to get new insurance if something happens to where we get married and, for some reason things don't work with Mark and the military, i'm going to ask mom if she can get separate health insurance on me anyway just to be sure i'm covered on something. I've even been checking into insurance on my own, just in case I end up having to pay for my own insurance out of my SSDI payments, but I don't know what to look for.Overall, about the wedding, mom just says that I better think things through and make sure its what I really want in my heart, becuase noone can make me make this decision to marry Mark. I know noone is, i'm making the choice to marry the man I love. Yeah, we have our problems, sometimes more than your average couple, but i've seen some couples worse than us work on things and come back as strong as ever, and since I know we're both committed to eachother, and committed to working on our issues, both individually and as a couple, I believe we will make it. So yeah, i'm nervous, but i'm happy about my decision. Excited and nervous.
We are having one, and i'd like to hear your tips, ideas, cost-cutting tips, do's, dont's, etc and especially see your pics...dish about your wedding!! We are having a small potluck wedding for about 55 gusts, mostly all close friends and family on August 14, 2011, and i'm just dying to hear how your small informal weddings turned out. My guy will be wearing a traditional Hawaiian wedding shirt in white, with black slacks, and the Groomsmen will be wearing sky blue Hawaiian shirts with khakis, I couldn't help it, I fell in love with my dress over a year ago and ordered and paid for it back in July '09, so I will be wearing a wedding dress, but nothing too poofy or formal.I'm mostly worried about decorations, I don't want to spend too much money on them, but we're going with a Hawaiian/Luau theme. I've found a lot of cute things in the Oriental Trading wedding catalog they've been sending me, but other than that, we don't want to do too much, because our entire wedding is so low-budget. The most money we're spending is on the cake ($300), DJ ($625), and Photographer ($650)...we've estimated around $1000 for flowers and decorations total , but I really REALLY don't want to spend NEAR that much for them...$300-$550 would be more my alley...is that doable???
So we always wanted to get married on our anniversary, but for the year we pushed the wedding back to, Aug 14 (our anniversary) falls on a Sunday. I was always under the impression that most weddings were held on aturdays, so when i pushed our date back, i put to to the 13th of aug, day before our anniversary, on a sat. My fiance mentioned that he didnt want to have to celebrate two dates, so we moved our date to Sunday, Aug 14, 2011How many of you are getting married on Sundays? Or non-traditional days??
I've seen a lot of ppl with them, and I was wondering if anyone knew anywhere I could get one made, or if anyone here makes them? I've tried posting at weddingicons but I got no response...
So it looks like my future hubby and I have come to an agreement. August 13, 2011 it is. Which is kinda relieving, because it gives us time to plan out what we're going to do about my health insurance, more time to pay vendors off, more time to get into couples counseling, and....just more time to prepare in general. Part of me is sad that we've officially had to move the wedding back a year, but i'm also relieved. So it looks like it's goodbye 2010 weddings and hello 2011 weddings!! Best of luck to all of the 2010 brides out there!X-posted
Ok,...so of course, most of you know that i'm planning an August 2010 or 2011 wedding for my fiance and I. Now we're starting to run into problems. Not of the wedding kind, because all of our vendors and prices have been hashed out, just nothing has been paid for except for my dress (excluding alterations)...My fiance says he won't marry me until I hold a fulltime job for a year first. Which I don't think can happen. For about the last year, i've been on SSI disability due to mental and physical health problems, and haven't been working. I've sold Avon and done odd jobs with my virtual assisting business, but no "real" job. I'm on Medicaid, through my SSI, and i'm also on my mom's health insurance through her job until I turn 25, or until i'm married, whichever comes first. I turn 24 next month, so my coverage with her depends on our wedding date. With my medicaid and her insurance, I literally don't have to pay ANYTHING for my prescriptions, but I do have to pay for my copays, since I only use my mom's insurance for Dr. visits, I have to pay the copays for my Dr visits.My problem is, my fiance has told me that as long as I kept the house clean, I didn't have to work, which allowed me to go to school fulltime. I'll be halfway done with my BA after 2011. I currently hold 23 credit hours, which just under classifies me as a sophmore. If my fiance told me that I didn't have to work and I'll be going to school fulltime, how does he expect me to hold a fulltime job? I'll lose my medicaid, and my SSI income. Also, once we're married, my insurance coverage with my mom will expire, and with the job he just started about 3 weeks ago, off4ers insurance after a year, but my fiance can't afford it. And i'll have to research and get my own insurance coverage and pay for it out of pocket, and I doubt i'll be able to afford it. I'm also really worried becuase I doubt I can HOLD a fulltime job long enough to qualify for insurance of my own, or to reach his "ultimatum" I've only been able to hold a job, full or parttime for three months. No longer. It seems like either way I go, i'll be stuck with no insurance, and that can NOT happen. The worst thing is, he refuses to try and talk this out with me, or to help find some kind of agreement, or common ground...its like he doesn't want the wedding to happen at all. When I even mention the wedding or ask for his input he ignores me.
For those of you who had (or are having) a casual outdoor (doesn't HAVE to be outdoors, but our ceremony is, our reception is going to be in my hometowns' community center) potluck wedding, how did you word the fact that your wedding was potluck on your wedding invites? We're having a potluck wedding and most likely be having the main course (the meats, barbecue chicken, sausage, etc) catered and ask guests to bring all of the sides/salads because people in my family LOVE to cook, and they just LOOK for an excuse to cook and eat and party lol (We're a very close family)...so, what did you say? How did you word it?